Living Their Daughter’s Bucket List

Visit Niagara Falls…on Kristina's bucket list.

Visit Niagara Falls…on Kristina’s bucket list.

Hello again,   Have you ever written or dreamed of a “bucket list”….things you hope to do before you die?  When Kristina Chesterman’s grieving parents began the painful process of  cleaning out their daughter’s apartment, they discovered a rare treasure tucked away in a make-up bag.   To their great surprise,  their 21-year-old daughter left a “bucket list,” probably written in high school. Her exuberant spirit of adventure rings through, from plans to take flying lessons, to wanting to visit 7 of the Wonders of the World including Niagara Falls, or to simple pleasures like running in a field of poppies.  A beloved nursing student at Chico State, she even included “saving a life,” which actually happened by being an organ donor.   A Plan for Creative Mourning   Now her mother and father knew exactly how they wanted to continue their love for Kristina.   I rarely post videos.  However, I found her parents choice to mourn her zest for life by living out her dreams a beautiful story.  They know this offers a way to continue their enduring bonds, rather than the futility of trying to forget.  After her family posted the list on Facebook, to their amazement, thousands of people have written to say they are inspired to also do these in her memory!   Jim and I leave in the morning for the Chatauqua Institution in New York where we are the Writers-in-Residence for a week, then off to Boston to enjoy a week with our two grandchildren and family.  Hope you are also finding moments of summer fun, such a gift after a long winter.   Have you ever been surprised after the death of someone you loved by finding or receiving something that gave you a further glimpse into their life? Enjoy this CBS interview!

Kristina Chesterman from The Kindness Blog

Kristina Chesterman
from The Kindness Blog

Parents mourn daughter’s death by living her bucket list

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Pilgrimage through Loss: Pathways to Strength and Renewal after the Death of a Child offers encouragement and information for other parents living in the long season of sorrow. Drawn from interviews from mothers and fathers on their grief journey, plus Linda Lawrence Hunt's memoir of their family's loss, it also includes recent research on grief, resilience, and creative healing.

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For everyone, life sometimes brings shipwreck moments.

Ours happened when four friends woke us one beautiful May dawn to break the news that our 25-year-old married daughter Krista had died 7000 miles away while volunteering in Bolivia. Our hearts shattered, much like the shards of her bus that plunged over a mountain cliff.
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