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Growing Strong in the Broken Places

Can we imagine becoming stronger in our broken places?  There’s a tradition in Japanese pottery called Kintsugi, where a broken pot is restored through a type of gold joinery.  Potters cherish seeing the imperfections as a creative addition, making a pot more gorgeous and more precious than before it was fractured.  When something has suffered damage and has a history, they assert it becomes more beautiful, even giving rebirth to the bowl’s life story.

I first heard of this shortly after our daughter died through writings of the poet, Mark Doty.  He describes the ancient Japanese ceramic cups, once the property of some holy monk.  Centuries later, a cup was dropped and broken, but even in this condition it was too beautiful to simply destroy.  So it was repaired, not with glue, which wouldn’t hold for centuries to come, but with a seam of gold solder repairing the break in what could never be repaired perfectly.  The gold solder added a beauty to the cup, making part of it quite visible.

Rebirth of a Broken Pot       with thanks to potter          dicklehman.com

Rebirth of a Broken Pot
with thanks to potter
dicklehman.com

 

Doty writes, “The metaphor offers the possibility to ‘honor the part of oneself that’s irreparable-to fill the crack with gold means to give the break prominence, to let it shine.  Wearing its history, the old cup with its gilt scars becomes, I imagine, a treasure of another sort, whole in its own fragmentation, more deeply itself, veined with the evidence of time.”

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Dick Lehman pottery

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Dick Lehman pottery

I found this story and image held healing power.  I was so moved by it that my husband surprised me on my birthday that year by giving me a picture of Krista from high school inside a stone frame with golden veins.  It always reminds me that if we can keep our hearts open to love and grace after profound loss, enduring strength finds space to come forth from our broken places.

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For everyone, life sometimes brings shipwreck moments.

Ours happened when four friends woke us one beautiful May dawn to break the news that our 25-year-old married daughter Krista had died 7000 miles away while volunteering in Bolivia. Our hearts shattered, much like the shards of her bus that plunged over a mountain cliff.
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